Can we really blame Purab's Action of Running away from Marriage?
Can we really blame Purab forcing Bulbul to get married to him?
Purab was not wrong in running away from the wedding. When coerced under extraordinary circumstances, it takes a thing like wedding, the ultimate reality that makes matters lucid. And for him, whatever the world, the sisters were leading him to, the false pretense that Pragya's marriage will survive, that purpose itself has come crashing down. So how is he even wrong ? No one can say that this is not the time you should run away. It can happen to anyone of us. Getting not married is not end of life. Infact not committed to marriage after marrying is actually legally a contract breached.
Can we really blame Purab forcing Bulbul to get married to him?
Purab was not wrong in running away from the wedding. When coerced under extraordinary circumstances, it takes a thing like wedding, the ultimate reality that makes matters lucid. And for him, whatever the world, the sisters were leading him to, the false pretense that Pragya's marriage will survive, that purpose itself has come crashing down. So how is he even wrong ? No one can say that this is not the time you should run away. It can happen to anyone of us. Getting not married is not end of life. Infact not committed to marriage after marrying is actually legally a contract breached.
The plan to marry BB is not ridiculous because, logically, that is the only way Purab is going to keep Bulbul protected from Aliya and Abhi. She technically and rightfully belongs to him and he can claim his right to take care of her. This also closes the options of someone else asking him to reconsider marrying Aliya. Basically he wants to bind humself to the cause for which he had initially rejected Aliya. He is not being selfish, but at this time doing the last SOS act. Though agree, the writing of dialogues is bent to make it look ridiculous. But I would still go and stand besides his Chaachi, who was all along giving Purab and Bulbul the right advice. And that tete-a-tete with his Chaachi and himself in the car, tells us that Puran suddenly has become the most lucid person on the horizon. End of the day, Purab is into this dirty business of agreeing to marry Aliya only for Bulbul's sake. He listened to her before and when her plan fell apart, he is taking the decision now. If he marries Bulbul, then consequences are straightforward and can be dealt with...with none of the fooling around games that the Arora sisters and Mehra Crazies are indulging in.
Not marrying a mate whom you love is not as unfortunate as having to marry someone you do not love. Purab not being able to marry Bulbul is lesser evil out of having to marry someone whom you do not love even a little.
Purab running away or refusing from Aliya situation, I would always have supported him, like his Chaachi. Marriage is a big decision and not Guddon Gudiyon ka khel like all those bimbettes (Aliya, Tanu and Bulbul) are engaged in.
Pragya too refused Suresh. So why blame Purab if he is looking for love. Pragya too obliged like Abhi and Purab. So why blame Abhi and Purab, if they are marrying only for people they love. Abhi wanted to dump Pragya so how is it wrong of Purab if he actually dumped Aliya.
Daadi saying I am disappointed with Purab for dumping Aliya twice and I will not forgive him or anyone else who aided it, is like old school cane approach. Ever bothered to ask, why Aliya, why do you want to marry him if he does not love you. Does he actually love you? Did you even bother to check? The same logic applies to Abhi.
Life is not always about commitment. Life is about taking compassionate approach to every relation and matter you deal with. If you cannot give your 100% of your heart it is not being compassionate, so how can you say you can fulfil your commitment. Commitment starts with Compassion. Its so clear that Purab feels no bonding with Aliya. This is matter of heart of loving someone bodily and soulfully. We are not talking about humanitarian love.
Abhi does not like Pragya type of girls. And he cannot be compassionate or committed to her. But there is a certain attraction he feels for Pragya. Tomorrow he leaves her, he wont regret that. But if he decides to stick with his marriage, he is not going to lose anything either. There is enough room for him to play along with each other unlike Purab who literally feels stifled in Aliya's presence.
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Sarla is definitely not going to take it well that yet once again Bulbul managed to ruin/endanger Pragya's wedding by somehow being pivotal to Pragya's existential state of marriage. That was bound to happen anyways. Bulbul already feels the burden about it under her mother's oppressive alienation of her. I understand a mother's sad situation and her need to do justice to both of her daughters, but she is fighting her fate. If Bulbul remains a problem for Pragya, let it be, let it get played until fate is worn out and then her daughters will find grooms who really deserve them. Sarla need not push her daughters down the drain just to have her Kumkum Bhagya dreams fulfilled.
Whether the Plot Clunk weaves plays this matter out loud and clear, we have to wait and watch.
But definitely none of the two daughters had been having a kind life ever since Pragya's match-making sessions have been going on. Its a common problem, one sibling gets preferred over the other. All one has to do it let it get played while we keep patience and fortitude to do good for our daughters. Not force them into unwanted marriages through emotional blackmail.
Kumkum Bhagya is really the culprit for Aroras and MU Bhagya is the culprit for Mehras. The Mehras live under royal illusion. All of them.
Disregarding the ridiculousness of the premise and the utter foolishness of the characters reactions to them, I felt strongly at two places.
ReplyDeleteOne was Puneet being slaughtered by every character as a mean to their own end.. I was surprised that even Pragya was a party to it and for what, the ugly truth of her relationship with her husband shouldn't come out in the open(*headdesk)
Second is none other than the dulha of "dulha bhaag gaya" nautanki. I felt for him and his situation irrespective of his own contribution to the mess. This when Purab as a character till now has not really been fleshed out to come of his own but only to drive the drama in Abhi's life. Purab elevated himself in my eyes by speaking sense. He had not behaved any less foolishly than others, yet when he stumbled upon the stark reality of the situation, he attained the transparently clear state. I accepted his thought process and decision in a jiffy without question how dishonorable he had behaved or how right/wrong it was.
Infact, in Sept 5 epi, he has once again run away to escape the so-called wrath of Abhi's fury, let's see what the CV's have in mind for him to run the circus. Infact, even today he was so transparent in thinking that Pragya's name got cleared and hence Abhi would do no harm to her. Should I take it as to how well he knows his friend's thought-process work? Or take it as his foolishness ?or his simple mindedness after attaining the transparent state in tandem with his judgement of Abhi?
Abhi..Abhi..Abhi.. Dont know why, but am reminded of a Kabir's doha when it comes to Abhi's perception and tendency to condemn Pragya/Bulbul/Purab as evil
"Bura jo dekhan main chala, bura na mila koi;
jab mann khoja apne, toh mujhse bura na koi"
Just my POV, instead of making Abhi a hypocrite/double standard fool by making him yell as to how the Arora sisters have betrayed his family or how shameless and cheap it was of Bulbul to fall in love with an engaged man or how he would expose Pragya's so-called evilness in front of all, it is time, the CV's facilitate Abhi to also attain the transparently clear state of seeing the situation for what it is. For me, it would indeed be a poignant moment to see him reach there as it was in Purab's case.
Pragya totally rocked it in Sept 5 episode by asking Abhi: "In playing with so many lives, didn't he think even once as to how it would impact his life?" No one could have said it better!! Isn't this the naked truth that Abhi has to register and then reflect upon. Especially since he has come to realize that he has been a royal fool in this "Purab has to wed Aliya" nautanki.
Bottomline is, foolishness in how one perceives/reacts is the culprit of every character's suffering. Period! I have no empathy/sympathy for any one. The empathy arises when a character rises out of the foolishness and when he/she is wanting to set it right the way they think is best in the given circumstance, the foolishness of the other characters involved pull him/her down:(
Zoya, loved your reminding of Kabir's Doha. Beautiful and Apt.
Delete"Bura jo dekhan main chala, bura na mila koi;
jab mann khoja apne, toh mujhse bura na koi"
Agree. Purab's act can be explained as following Occam's Razor's Rule. Simple and Neat action. Abhi has proven that he cannot listen to anyone because he is self-righteous and that original sinning has been done by Purab and Bulbul. So there ends all arguments. Purab has no choice left to confront through running away with his coveted conquest when Abhi is not willing to see his point of view. Purab has not won anything, he is still on his journey, but Abhi has completely lost against Purab. Maarke ke bhi use kya mil gaya? All he is left with himself is an innocent women, who he can revenge upon, if he wants to go low down to hurting her.
This is where Purab, trustingly left Abhi and Pragya, knowing Abhi wont go so low as to hurt an innocent woman below the belt.
Let's see if that thinking of Purab turns out to be true!